by Diane Rufino
My state of North Carolina is the latest state to face a possible erosion of traditional marriage. The question will be: How will its people react? Marriage is a solid bedrock foundation of communities – the source of modeling, morality, and values. The lessons children learn go far beyond the mere words that parents speak.
Redefining marriage as a genderless institution has consequences. First, public schools will be legally required to teach same-sex marriage on an equal footing with traditional marriage. It will therefore take away the most fundamental right that parents have – to raise their children according to values they hold dear and according to their rights of religious conscience. James Madison said: “Conscience is the most sacred of all property – our greatest possession.”
Look at the situation in the schools in Massachusetts, where same-sex marriage has been legal since 2004. One can find the book “King & King” by Linda de Haan and Stern Nijland in their elementary school libraries. The book tells the story of a queen who decided it was time for her son, the prince, to marry. He rejects every princess she offers. Finally the last candidate enters, and the prince feels “a stir in his heart.” But it was for one princess’s brother, Prince Lee. The two men marry and the book reads: “Everyone lives happily ever after.” On the last page, the two princes kiss, with a red heart covering their mouths.
The book glorifies the idea that it’s perfectly OK to have same-sex marriage.
A grade school boy in California returned home from school and asked his mother: “Mom, am I gay?” She wanted to know why he would ask such a question. He told her that his teacher told the class that “anyone can be gay.” Children shouldn’t be confronted with such questions. They shouldn’t have to entertain such possibilities or have to deal with such unnecessary confusion. Growing up is hard enough.
Parents have a tough enough time raising their children with proper values and morals and they can’t keep fighting with a school system that wants social change rather than social stability. Providing a definition to the institution of marriage in NC would help ensure that teachers assign classic reading and not books like “King & King.”